5 Fresh Tips to Smash to Stigma on Prenups with Divorce Lawyer Jolee Vacchi
Learning how to smash the stigma on prenups can be overwhelming, but you’re not alone! Check out these 5 Fresh Tips to help you smash the stigma on prenuptial agreements with divorce lawyer, Jolee Vacchi.
Foundations Family Law & Mediation Center is a boutique family law practice based in Worcester County, Massachusetts. We strive to resolve family law conflicts as painlessly and peacefully as possible. Our approach is caring and dignified. While not afraid to utilize strong tactics if needed, the preferred method is respectful and amicable, especially when children are involved. We firmly believe that something beautiful can be made from something broken, and we will be with you every step of the way to help you build a solid foundation for the future you deserve. A future filled with freedom, stability, and peace of mind.
As one client says, “Jolee made me feel like I could actually breathe and relax for the first time! I had no doubt she was going to put her everything into my case and that’s exactly what she did. She always got back to my messages and phone calls in a very timely manner and never made me feel like an inconvenience or like my questions were silly. I will always go to Jolee for help!”
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5 Fresh Tips to help you smash the stigma on prenups:
Prenups are for ALL marriages. You don't need to be a trust fund baby or uber rich to benefit from having a prenup. Depending upon your jurisdiction, premarital property, separate property including real estate and accounts titled in one party's name, life estates in property, inheritances, and more can all be considered part of the marital estate and subject to division in a divorce. But beyond this, not only are assets divided, but DEBTS are also divided in the divorce, even if they are titled in only one party's name. Don't be on the hook for your spouses' spending habits! Protect yourself with a prenup.
Reframe prenups as "marriage insurance." According to a 2022 Harris Poll, only 15% of Americans who have been married or are currently engaged report signing a prenup, and only 35% of unmarried people say they would sign a prenup. However, the national divorce rate still hovers around 50%, and this number increases to 67% of 2nd marriages, and 73% of 3rd marriages. Although no one intentionally plans to later get divorced when they are getting married, life is full of uncertainties, and the odds for divorce are high. So just like we purchase car insurance in case we get into an accident, protecting yourself in the case of divorce is a sound financial decision, strictly statistically speaking.
Contrary to popular belief, entering into a prenup is an act of LOVE. Making agreements about the end of your relationship while you are still on good terms results in more rational, reasonable, and fairer outcomes for both parties if the marriage ends in divorce. When a couple reaches the point of divorce, there has usually been some kind of betrayal, breach of trust, or other negative experience which has led to the breakdown of the marriage. At this point, the parties' judgment is often clouded by painful emotions, and people end up fighting over things to hurt the other person causing all notions of fairness to be thrown by the wayside.
The ROI on a prenup can be astronomical. A small investment now into drafting a prenup can save tens of thousands of dollars in future attorney’s fees. My prenup retainer is $2,500 vs. the average cost of divorce (per party) is approximately $10k-$15k, and some divorce cases can cost well beyond that amount if there are several contested issues and/or complex finances involved.
Commit to spreading the good word about prenups! Now that you know all the benefits about having a prenup, pledge to discussing these issues with your friends and loved ones to empower them with this knowledge. It's time to flip the script and smash the stigma about prenuptial agreements!